Just For Today I will not Worry

It is human nature to think ahead, to plan for the future and to consider problems that may crop up along with solutions. There’s nothing wrong in staying one step ahead of problems, but there is a serious issue if you are constantly borrowing trouble. If you are dealing with a constant imbalance in your mind, body and spirit.

Are you the sort of person who is always worried about something going wrong? Are you constantly worried about possible setbacks in life? Do you go from one nagging thought to a slew of thoughts that steal your peace of mind? Are stress and anxiety your perpetual companions?

According to a Swedish Proverb, worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.

Simply put, most of the things that you are worried about, have not happened as yet. Most of the things that you are going to worry about, are not going to happen either. These worries are just shadow monsters that live in your own mind, nurtured and trained by your attitude. 

A lifetime of untrained thoughts cause you to worry about everything. Yes, you will have problems in life. Yes there will be setbacks and difficulties in meeting your desired goals, but worrying is not the way to help yourself overcome them.

Remember each time you think a thought, you are spending energy on it. Just like you would not buy rotten fruit by spending your hard earned money on it, train yourself to not spend your energy on thoughts that are not helpful to you at all.

Today’s Call to Action

How do you stop worrying and spending your energy on non essential issues. Pay attention to your thoughts. Each time you catch yourself worrying with non productive thoughts, mentally say to yourself STOP! Clear your mind with a couple of minutes of deep breathing.

Then physically get up and do a set of exercises. It could be anything simple like raising your hands above your head and touching your toes ten times. Or holding your arms out sideways and twisting your waist. It can be anything, just do ten repetitions.

Now think about the situation that started the worrying. Has a problem actually manifested itself? No? There’s nothing to worry about! Just laugh out loud and remind yourself, I am now changing my attitude to worrying.

Yes, there is a problem? Is there any action that you can take to help create a solution? Go ahead and plan the steps.

Now visualize that the problem is solved. That you are happy and laughing. Feel the joy of vanquishing the problems. Remind yourself that you are more than capable of handling any challenges that life brings to you.

Affirmation – I eliminate worry from my life. I make space for joy. I have faith that everything will work out for the highest good of everyone.

I wish you days filled with laughter and joy.

Love and light, always

Cashmere

Just for Today, I will not be Angry

These days people think of anger as something of a villain in the stable of human emotions. Nothing could be further from the truth. Anger is a very useful emotion. It triggers the most primitive part of our brain – the amygdala. The alarm raised by the amygdala is sent to the adrenal glands. They release the hormones adrenaline and testosterone to give your anger a boost of power.

You now have muscles twitching and jerking, urging you to take action in the form of fight or flight. When you are angry, the reaction usually is to rage loudly. The adrenalin will increase the speed and volume of your speech. Your pulse will increase as blood pumps away from the stomach to your limbs. Your face will feel hot and flushed. Your veins will begin to protrude.

The stress increases in your body as does cortisol, the stress hormone. Cortisol cuts of the non essential functions of the body to help you focus on the immediate threat. However when you are angry, there is no real physical threat and this cocktail of hormones is unable to resolve itself. Continuing to course through your body and keeping your on the edge.

Anger is needed to keep you safe. What is bad, is excessive anger. Imagine being stuck in the state of anger for hours, days and months. Think of all the damage this excessive anger is doing to your own body. This is why managing anger has become the new mantra for stressed individuals. It’s not that difficult to do. Here’s a clue.

Anger is a choice. If you get angry, you are allowing the person or situation who makes you angry, to steal away your energy. Is that what you want? To hand over your energy to every fool who can make you angry? No wonder you feel low and depressed after a bout of expending your anger. All those hormones come crashing down and bring the high your body experienced to a low.

Today's Call to Action

How can you manage your anger? Think about what makes you angry. Sit down right now and make a list of all the triggers that you are already aware of. It’s just going to take a few minutes to bring to your mind everything that you feel is wrong. That you feel is unfair. That you feel is stupid. Make that list and look at it.

Now tell me, how many of these things on the list, both people and situations can you control? No there isn’t, because if you could control it, it would not trigger you. Is there something you can do to cancel the trigger? Think of at least five things you can do, besides getting angry, when this situation occurs next.

Having thought out of options in advance gives you a better chance of not loosing your temper when the situation occurs. If you catch yourself becoming angry, immediately take ten deep breaths before speaking. The simple realization that you now refuse to give away your energy to this undeserving situation or person, will allow you to reign in your anger.

Affirmation – Today I choose kindness over anger. I release anger from my body and make space for compassion. As the anger leaves me, my body begins to heal. 

I wish you days filled with kindness and compassion.

Love and light, always

Cashmere

Manifesting is More than the Law of Attraction

In recent popular culture there is a lot of mention of the Law of Attraction. One that quite literally says that what you focus your attention upon, you manifest in your life. This over simplistic view has everyone thinking about attracting all kinds of things into their lives. Some want to manifest money, others want to find their soul mates, and a lot of people are looking for abundance, without really understanding what kind of abundance they need to focus on.

 In most cases these people are meeting with a world of disappointment when despite doing what they feel is the way to get the Law of Attraction to work, nothing seems to be manifesting the way it should. This is because when you work with Spiritual Laws, there is always more than one at play. The laws of Physics do not exist in a vacuum, but rather come together to make up our understanding of the physical world.

In the same way there are seven essential spiritual laws that tend to work together to help us manifest what we truly want. The Law of Attraction is just the starting point, it is followed by these laws.

Law of Deliberate Creation
Law of Allowing
Law of Sufficiency and Abundance
Law of Pure Potentiality
Law of Detachment
Law of Polarity

It is only when all of these spiritual laws work in harmony together can you expect effortless manifestation. The key to working with these laws is not to block your enthusiasm with a layer of pessimism.

Today's Call to Action

Set a clear, measurable and well defined goal. "I have tons of money" is not a good example. Make it "I manifest ten thousand extra every month to invest in my ultimate goal of financial freedom."

Use affirmations to keep your subconscious mind and inner critic away from soiling your energy vibrations. This can be tricky and will require constant monitoring. Use stream of conscious writing to check where your thoughts are. Or just do mirror work, you will find yourself pouring out all your innermost fears and desires after a week of constantly talking to yourself.

Allow the good to come into your life in small ways. Only when you show the Universe that you can handle the smaller gifts it sends you with ease, will you move up to the big league of manifestation. If someone wants to treat you for no reason at all, allow them.

Save and spend money with pleasure. Yes, only when you are willing to happily give it away, will you be able to get more of it. Remember when you give away something with joy, you are equally focused on it.The Universe will notice the joy you associate with that object and bring more of it to you.

When you set your manifestation goal, don't let there be a constant shadow over it. Release any doubts, anxiety, desperation that are related to the goal. Know that the Spiritual Laws run just as true as the Scientific ones. They may not seem to be working at the speed you want them to, but have you ever tried rushing a chemical reaction in the lab?

I wish you happy manifesting.
Love and light, always
Cashmere

Fear: My Frenemy

There are many things that I would love to do, but I don't. The funny thing is no one else is stopping me from doing these activities. It's just this Frenemy (friend + enemy) I have called Fear.

It could be anything from dancing to a Bollywood number on stage, giving a speech in pure Hindi, conducting a workshop for more than a hundred people, dealing with people who never seem to appreciate you, or anything else that inspires fear.

These are my bear bugs, yours could be different. Still I feel we react in the same physical manner when faced with them. When I think about the activity in question, my heart pounds, my stomach gets butterflies, my mouth runs dry and I am literally running to the bathroom to hide and ride out my fear.

The thing is, even if fear is my enemy because it doesn't allow me to do the things I want to, it is also my friend. It points out areas of my life that can be better if I work on them. It acts as a guide for what I need to do.

Call to Action

Think of one thing that you are reluctant to do. Something that really scares you. It could be a physical activity such as Bungee Jumping. Or something more common place such as standing up for yourself when someone you know puts you down.

Once you have that activity that fears rules for you, think about going bad ass on it. Now confront your fear. Do what it is you fear to face the most. Build up your courage to do what is needed. Ask for Universal Energy to support your actions and then take the leap of faith and jump.

I wish you courage to face your fears.
Love and light, always
Cashmere

Start With Small Manifestations

Every book I read on the Law of Attraction told me that I needed to have clear intention before I tried to manifest anything. So I huffed and puffed and cleared my mind with meditations before I decided to try my hand at manifestation with positive statements and a whole lot of mumbo jumbo.

...to no avail.
...zero...zilch...nada.

Then I realized that for every affirmation I made about my manifestation out loud, I was creating a cancelling doubt in the silence of my head. If I said "I manifest a thousand bucks", my inner critic would say, "Yeah right! Whose going to give you a thousand bucks?"

When I became aware of this side order of doubt I was placing along with my main order to the Cosmic Kitchen, I knew I had to switch things around. So I came up with stuff that was totally believable. Things I knew I could easily manifest in the upcoming week.

A feather on the road.
A butterfly in the park.
A chocolate that I saw on TV.
A parking spot in the mall.
A button (yep found one in the washing machine).

Suddenly I was totally owning it! I would manifest exactly what I wanted, and withing a week. The difference here was that I knew it was no big deal to manifest something so small, and so it was easily done.

Call to Action

Three steps to manifestation. First step - write it down. Having your goal written allows you great clarity over what you are trying to manifest. Also test it on the "I Believe I can Manifest" scale where 1 is can't believe I will manifest and 10 is absolutely will manifest. Ideally 7-10 is the zone you will meet success with.

Second step - Imagine that it has already happened. Feel the emotions that you would when the goal is met. Is it happiness? Relief? If you wanted to manifest a house, what would you feel when you walked through that home? Imagine and experience that joy right now. Everything is first created in your mind then in the world.

Third step - Give yourself your due as a Co-Creator. Accept the responsibility that your thoughts are creating your reality. This is a biggie! Most of use are happy to hand over our power to someone else. That is not conducive to manifestation. You need to stand in your full power and own it.

I wish you marvelous manifestations.
Love and light, always
Cashmere

Comforting Lies We Tell Ourselves

There is a childhood dream that many of us cherish. It could be to do something exciting and physically demanding, or give a public performance of a talent. The point is not to crystallize the goal, but to see why we have done nothing to make it a reality as yet.

A man I know wants to learn how to play the drums. He's often told me about this dream. Each time I ask him to do something about it, he says he has no time. I got the details of classes being run on weekends in his neighbourhood, and still he couldn't bring himself to join them.

I'm too old to do this.
I don't have the time to do this right now.
It's actually not worth the time and effort I will need to put in.
Can I afford to pay so much for an activity which is not essential?
It makes no difference if I follow my dream as it's not going to change my life.

These are common lies that we tell ourselves when we don't follow our dreams. They may seem very rational and reasonable, but they are killing your inner child. They are reinforcing the belief that you are not worthy. That you don't deserve happiness.

Call to Action

Make a list of all the things that you love to do. It could be something you do everyday or an activity that you have not performed in years. Just keep writing it all down till you have exhausted your brain. If something occurs to you later, keep adding to the list.

Now analyse the list for things that you can do but have been holding back from doing due to various lies you have told yourself. Most often you will find that no one is stopping you from doing things you love, but yourself.

Now pick out at least five things from the list that you can easily do. Over the period of the next week try and do one of these things each day. You will find your inner child coming out to play. You will be in a better mood, and you will feel loved.

I wish you honesty at every step.
Love and light, always
Cashmere

Taking Responsibility

When things go wrong, as they often will in life, what is your response to it? How you deal with life's challenges says a lot about who you are. Suppose you set a goal, make a plan and start following it. Then something upsets the plan and you are left reeling.

Do you decide to give up the course?
Do you blame someone else for causing you trouble?
Do you run to an authority figure and crib about how things went wrong?
Do you sit down and work out what went wrong so that you can attempt to fix it?

Everything happens for a reason. If your project has hit a road block, there is some subconscious pattern in your thinking that has caused it. You don't believe that you can do it, so why should the Universal Energy support you?

If you want positive results, you need to take responsibility of your thoughts, words and deeds. You need to own up to the fact that while you really want the project to succeed, there is something in your heart that is holding you back.

Today's Call to Action

Think of a specific situation where you are feeling blocked. One where you would like to change things to make them better. It could be related to your relationships, career goals, health issues or even finances. You need to pick the one that's most pressing and urgent to you.

Now get out that diary and write down the reasons why you think that this situation is not changing. If it changes will it take you out of your safety zone? What is the payoff for no change taking place? Write down whatever you think is hindering the project.

The next step is to own up to the fact that you are completely responsible for this situation. As you take responsibility for creating this situation, use the technique of Ho'oponopono to release the blocks. Here are the four steps:

Repent for creating the situation - I am Sorry!
Ask for forgiveness - Please Forgive Me!
Express gratitude - Thank You!
Accept yourself unconditionally - I Love You!

I wish you every success that you can claim.
Love and light, always
Cashmere